For some people, dealing with relationships and self-confidence can be a real struggle. You might discover that you have confidence in all of the other areas of your life, (home, career, etc.), but when it comes to dating and romantic relationships you may feel like you don't have any confidence at all. This can be because you had bad experiences with dating in the past, it could be because you have been left or hurt before, or it could be because you feel bad about your physical appearance and that makes you very self conscious when it comes to someone else finding you desirable. No matter what the reason for your low self confidence in your relationships, here are a few ways that you can feel better.
First, Understand That You Are Not Alone
Many of us are popular in society but struggle with our personal worth when it comes to romantic relationships. That powerful female attorney might go home to an abusive spouse, that doctor might not have the confidence to talk to the opposite sex outside of work, and that famous actor might feel trapped with a spouse that only wants his money because he just can't see himself doing any better.
Your romantic life is the most private part of your life, many people lack confidence in this area but few people talk about it.
Second, Don't Be Afraid To Get Help
Many times, we look at counseling as something for other people, and we look at our own problems as something that we can get over or something that we just have to deal with.
But if you are constantly sabotaging good relationships then you might want to talk to someone professionally to find out how to boost your relationship confidence and how to realize your own value in relationships.
Realize Your Relationship Contributions
If you are struggling with your self-confidence in relationships, you should look at the things that you are contributing to that relationship and the things that the other person is contributing. Are you giving them as much as they are giving you? Is the relationship fairly equal? Or are you putting more time and effort into a relationship than your partner?
You might want to write these things down so that you can see them clearly. One of the best ways to see that you have value in relationships is to look at all of the things that you bring to that relationship. Look at all of the good things you have done and how your partner reacts to those good things, this will go a long way in helping you to see the positive things that you bring to a relationship.
Embrace Your Flaws
Remember, no one is perfect. It is okay for you to have flaws and when you find the right person, they will embrace your flaws and love you for them. No matter what, don't try to change yourself to be what someone else wants you to be, this will lower your self-confidence tremendously and it will also make it hurt that much worse if that person leaves you anyway.
Dealing with self confidence issues while you are dating is hard, and it gets even harder when you do not understand the value of who you are and what you can bring to the table in relationships.